Progressive Prison Project
Innocent Spouse & Children Project
Greenwich, Connecticut
Forgiveness & The Innocent Spouse
& Children Project. 1 Corinthians 1:18-31
A Sermon.
Rev. Jeff Grant & Lynn Springer
Christ Church Greenwich
Feb. 2, 2014
People in attendance have told us that this was one of the most surprising moments in church they have ever witnessed - as Jeff called Lynn up to the pulpit and apologized to her, and through her to his extended family and to the families of all men who have gone to prison and left their families behind.
Click image for the audio recording of our sermon.
1 Corinthians 1:18-31
18 For the message of the cross is foolishness to those who are perishing, but to us who are being saved it is the power of God. 19 For it is written:
“I will destroy the wisdom of the wise;
the intelligence of the intelligent I will frustrate.”
20 Where is the wise person? Where is the teacher of the law? Where is the philosopher of this age? Has not God made foolish the wisdom of the world? 21 For since in the wisdom of God the world through its wisdom did not know him, God was pleased through the foolishness of what was preached to save those who believe. 22 Jews demand signs and Greeks look for wisdom, 23 but we preach Christ crucified: a stumbling block to Jews and foolishness to Gentiles, 24 but to those whom God has called, both Jews and Greeks, Christ the power of God and the wisdom of God. 25 For the foolishness of God is wiser than human wisdom, and the weakness of God is stronger than human strength.
26 Brothers and sisters, think of what you were when you were called. Not many of you were wise by human standards; not many were influential; not many were of noble birth. 27 But God chose the foolish things of the world to shame the wise; God chose the weak things of the world to shame the strong. 28 God chose the lowly things of this world and the despised things—and the things that are not—to nullify the things that are, 29 so that no one may boast before him. 30 It is because of him that you are in Christ Jesus, who has become for us wisdom from God—that is, our righteousness, holiness and redemption. 31 Therefore, as it is written: “Let the one who boasts boast in the Lord.”
JEFF:
Please
be seated. Also from 1 Corinthians – "If I speak in the tongues of men or angels but I don’t have love, I’m only
a resounding gong or clanging cymbal. "
My name is Jeff Grant, and I’m the Director of the Progressive Prison
Project. If you look on page three of
your program, you’ll see some things about our ministries that are there - and some
things that are missing from there.
You’ll see that I’m a Baptist preacher, which means I’m not going to
give you a sermon this morning.
I’m going testify because that’s what Baptists do. So this is going to be testimony this
morning, and I promise you, whether you like it or not, that’s what’s going
happen.
There are some things that
are not there - and that’s what I’m going to talk about this morning. I’m going to talk about the other side
of our project - the Innocent Spouse and Prison Project - which is very
dear to our heart. These two
projects are the first ministries in the United States that are created to
support the families of people who are accused or convicted of
white-collar and other nonviolent
crimes. Christ Church Greenwich has been kind enough to give
us a home. And, so that’s
the reason why I’m here this morning and also why we’ll be also doing a lecture here at
the 10:10 between the services. We are so, so grateful to be here.
I want to start my testimony this
morning by telling you that I was preparing for this sermon about ten days ago when my
wife Lynn came to me, and she said to me, “When are you going to stop being a
liar?”
And I said, “Who, me?”
And she explained to me that…I’ve told…
I’m so sick of my story. I have to tell you, because
everyone who knows my story here...some of my friends from Family ReEntry are here. Some of my friends from the ministry,
some of my friends from…they know
that I’ve been to prison. They
know I’m a drug addict and alcoholic, recovered now 11 years. They know I’ve…
I’ve told my story so many times, and
in all those times I’ve told my story…I call it My Fall and My
Redemption Story. My wife pointed out to me, she said, “In all those
times you’ve told that story, you’ve never once talked about hurting your
family,” and I said to her, “How is that possible?” Is that actually possible?
Before every time I speak, I pray for vulnerability. I pray.
So I went and checked my notes. I checked everything I’ve written, and it’s true. I've never actually talked about hurting
my family. I've never apologized to
them. So I’m going to make that up
right now, and, Lynn, can you do me a favor? Can you come join me up here?
[Lynn leaves her seat in the front row and joins Jeff up in the pulpit]
This is really hard.
I’m sorry. I’m doing the
best I can. She does not know I’m
doing this.
Lynn, I’m sorry. I’m sorry. I’m sorry I hurt you.
I’m sorry for the times I wasn’t there for you. I’m sorry for taking your trust and
misusing it. I’m sorry for the
times I was away from you. I’m
sorry that I misused your trust, and I’m sorry I wasn’t there for you when you
needed me. Will you please forgive
me?
LYNN:
Sure.
[Lynn & Jeff hug. Congregation applauds]
JEFF:
I
think it’s important that they understand that we’re partners, and I didn’t
always treat Lynn like a partner, and that’s the nature of this problem that
happens when people go to prison.
And it’s mostly men that go to prison. Some women go to prison, but statistically it’s mostly men
in white-collar crimes that go to prison. And so that’s what I want to
talk about today. I’m going to do my best to relate it to the issue and try
to hold it to the scripture at little bit if I can.
Because the problem of the foolishness of the wise and the
way I relate it to the scripture is really - the more I know, the less I know. I became more and more imbedded in my story and my understandings of "the
great me," the preacher, the helper, the minister. And there’s no question that I was being helpful to people,
and that was an understanding that I had, and that was guiding me through. It guided me through seminary, and it
guided me through becoming a director at Family ReEntry. I see a couple of directors from Family
ReEntry here. And then into my
seminary story.
But that really wasn’t
enough for me. So, I just want you
to hear the story a little bit and how…
And what happened here is how we started the Innocent Spouse and Child
Project, and Lynn if you want to chime in at any point, that would be great. Honestly… Lynn did not
know this was going to happen today.
This may be a first for Christ Church. I’m not sure, but it’s certainly a first for us. Because we do this, and we’re just
doing the best we can here.
I
just wanted to let you know that what happened was is that we’ve kind of found
that our search for our own authenticity is really the crux of our ministry,
and that’s really, really hard because what happens is that we’re like open
wounds. We’re on the
phone or we’re meeting with people who are really oppressed. They’re on the margins, and they are
people who there’s not a lot of empathy or sympathy for in the world,
especially white-collar people.
People here in Greenwich or New Caanan or Darien or all
over the Country where there are sensationalized headlines and people just…
There's a kind of Schadenfreude - people want to see them kind of fail in
this bizarre way - there are all
these TV shows, Lifestyles of the Rich and Famous and The Bachelor or whatever they are, for people who are really doing well in the world, but there’s this kind of
seed in the back that somehow people want to see them fail, and we’re keyed
into that because we’re people who went through it.
So what happens is that we get phone calls, or emails, or
Tweets - or whatever the social media is - and we hear from people whose
voices are barely perceptible.
They've just proffered guilty pleas, or in the case of the wives - and that’s really what we want to
talk about today - where their husbands have left them penniless and almost
homeless, they’re on food stamps, and they can only heat their houses
through Operation Fuel. And they’re on HUSKY
in order to get health insurance, and they have sophisticated legal
problems because they haven’t been independently represented. And that’s where
we come in.
Lynn winds up ministering to them and counseling them. We put together legal teams for them to try and get them their assets back if
they’ve been seized or they’ve been taken by the government in kind of kind of
a failure of due process when these women have… They’re entitled to property that was theirs but somehow got
swept up into these government things...
Lynn, do you want to say anything about it?
LYNN:
Well,
I just want to say that in the meantime while Jeff is helping them and getting
a team together to help these women...they’re cold. They don’t have sufficient means to heat their homes, which
in the case of many white-collar families they’re generally living in fairly
large homes. Operation Fuel is not
sufficient to help them heat those homes.
All of their assets have been seized by the SEC. So, if their husband was in the
financial industry, they don’t have enough. They don’t have enough to feed their children. As I said, to heat their homes.
They’re not getting by.
And, in my case, there was a lot of, a
lot of shame.
I had never known anyone
who had ever gone to prison. It
was difficult for me to talk about it.
My own family didn’t really want to hear about it and wasn’t interested
in supporting me, and the only people that I did talk to about it advised me to
leave Jeff. There was really no
support for me. My daughter and I
were really, really on our own. And
that doesn’t help. So I have a
great deal of compassion for the women that Jeff and I are helping now, who are
in the same situation that I was in.
So that’s all I really have to say about that right now.
And all I do want to say… Now that I… Yes, I do have one last thing to say…
JEFF:
She’s
just warming up :).
LYNN:
The
one thing that I would like to say to all of you that you might want to take
away with you today is... I’ve come to believe that the only way in so many issues
that we have in life and in this particular issue, but in almost every issue
is…the two things that I would love
for you to take away are: compassion and love. I believe they’re really the only, only way in raising our
children, in dealing with white-collar crimes and every crime. The thing that I’ve learned about Jeff
and every criminal I come in contact with, crimes are committed by people who
are sick and suffering.
And compassion and love are really the only way to deal
with these things. That’s just my
feeling about this.
JEFF:
I’m
just going to leave you with a quote because I think we’ve probably used up our
time. I just want to tell you we were at Martin Owen's baptism two weeks ago, and
it’s just a wonderful thing to be a member of this community and to see
children being born. Dane [and Debbie Boston's] child was
born a couple days ago. Is that
right? And what a gift, to be
having a message of salvation and birth and renewal and redemption and to have
this all tie together.
So I just
want to leave you with this quote from today's scripture reading:
“The
message of the cross is foolishness to those who are perishing, but to those of
us who are being saved, it’s the power of God.”
Thank you all for listening to our message this morning, and
may God bless you and keep you always.
Lynn & I will next be preaching and speaking at:
First Congregational Church of Danbury, Sun., Mar. 16th
Please join us as Jeff and Lynn will be Guest
Preaching and giving a seminar after the service relating to their work
at the Innocent Spouse & Children Project. Danbury is the only city
in Connecticut that hosts a Federal Prison. The Federal Correctional
Institution, Danbury is a low-security United States federal prison for
female inmates - a major controversy has arisen recently since a plan
has been approved to move these female inmates to other locations far
away from their families. First Congregational Church of Danbury, 164
Deer Hill Ave., Danbury, CT, Click image for details.
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Some Comments from Linked In:
I love this...so very powerful! Having been the mother of two sons who went to prison, I learned that families of the incarcerated are the "other victims." You feel so very helpless, judged and often are treated like you are committing a crime. Thank you very doing this!
By Lucy Smith, MEd
I think this ministry is absolutely awesome that Pastor Jeff and his wife, Lynn, are doing to help those innocent wives and children whose spouses are incarcerated. It is very true that very few think about the family of those in prison, but I believe they are left hurting with hardly anyone to come to their rescue; unless, they are fortunate to have family members who care. I'm sure that most of them are full of shame and pain for what their loved ones did to go to prison. It's almost like losing a loved one in death, but the person is still very much alive. The family members of those incarcerated need to know that they are loved regardless to what happened. We who are Christians need to show that love by reaching out to them in any way we can to help out. I never really thought much about the family members before, because I've always done ministry to those on the inside of prison. I am so thankful for the type of ministry that Pastor Jeff and Lynn are talking about, and I pray for more to catch this vision and run with it.
By Gwen Campbell
I will be having a Town Hall Meeting in March. The agenda is the "Destroying the New Jim Crow" and Transitioning ex-offenders back into our communities effectively. I have prepared a survey to make sure I am presenting what the community is most interested in discussing. Please take time to complete the survey. I would also ask that you would pass it on to others. This is the link: http://lnkd.in/dUzi8Ka I look forward to hearing your opinions.
Thanks. Kimberly
By Kimberly Brown
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A Prayer for Forgiveness and Reconciliation, From the Thomas More Center, Sunday, Feb. 23, 2014:
Gracious and merciful God, the problems facing our human family are
very grave and we are no longer isolated from one another. We are
confronted daily with our addiction to violence, our hatred and our
greed. We are heartbroken. The media are relentless in their
presentation and critique and we all long for some good news. It is so
easy to forget that your Son, Jesus, is always the good news and that he
has given us the remedy for our brokenness. “Father, forgive them,
they don’t know what they are doing.” He spoke so clearly. We ask your
Holy Spirit to remind us of this again and again. We ask you for the
gift of hope in our lives and know that we need to turn to one another
for the confidence and assurance that we will emerge from situations,
that, in the short term seem hopeless. Banish fear and anxiety from our
hearts.
Tonight we gather to affirm one another and to remove the barriers
that seem to sour our relationships and keep us at a distance. Heal the
short tempers, the crabbiness and the grudges we hold, against one
another, against our political system, against our Church, against our
financial institutions. We could go on and on. Prompt us to be beacons
in the present darkness, and especially beacons to one another. We are
all guilty of some selfishness, many of us have lived beyond our means
and we become angry and irrational and embrace ideologies that protect
our acquisitions. We need your help to stop contributing to the larger
greed that tears at our world. We believe in the power of your grace to
change our lives and we promise tonight to be once again open to that
grace. Bless us with a peaceful spirit and a desire to be reconciled
with one another.
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Progressive Prison Project/
Innocent Spouse & Children Project
Rev. Jeff Grant, JD, M Div, Director
Christ Church Greenwich
254 East Putnam Avenue
Greenwich, Connecticut, USA 06830
(o) +1203.769.1096
(m) +1203.339.5887
jgrant@pppx.org
jg3074@columbia.edu
Lynn Springer, Advocate
lspringer@innocentspousechildrenproject.org
(m) +1203.536.5508
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