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Saturday, November 23, 2013

We Have Dreams Too, By Lynn Springer

Progressive Prison Project

Innocent Spouse & Children Project

Greenwich, Connecticut

We Have Dreams Too
By Lynn Springer 

Being children of the 50's and 60's, my husband Jeff and I had many remarkable role models as we were growing up: The Freedom Fighters, Martin Luther King, Jr., Bobby Kennedy, Ruby Bridges & many more.  They paved the way for us, taught us what to strive for and have given us goals. 

We have learned that suffering knows no boundaries; suffering is colorblind; suffering knocks on the doors of the rich and the poor.  It touches the babe and the elderly - no one is immune.  

Whenever incarceration is in the picture there is suffering whether you live in the back-country of Greenwich or in the neighborhoods of Bridgeport.  

This is why we are filled with extreme gratitude to announce that, with the assistance of Rev. Jim Lemler and Rev. Jenny Owen, the Progressive Prison Project/Innocent Spouse & Children Project will now have a second home at Christ Church Greenwich - along with our first home at the First Baptist Church of Bridgeport with our mentor Rev. Hopeton Scott. 

We are bound by our brokenness, and nothing can heal the wounds of the incarcerated and their loved ones without light, love, compassion and togetherness. We are so thankful that the light is now shining in Greenwich. 

If you would like to learn more about the light and compassion of our ministry, on Dec. 13th, at 6:30 am, David Miller, Director of the Princeton University Faith & Work Initiative and Host of the Greenwich Leadership Forum will be interviewing my husband, Rev. Jeff Grant.  Indian Harbor Yacht Club, Steamboat Road, Greenwich.  We hope you will join us. 

Blessings & peace to you all.

Respectfully,
Lynn

Lynn Springer, Advocate
Innocent Spouse & Children Project 
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Rev. Jeff Grant, JD, M Div
Director, Progressive Prison Project/
Innocent Spouse & Children Project
Christ Church Greenwich
254 East Putnam Avenue
Greenwich, Connecticut, USA 06830

Assoc. Minister/
Director of Prison Ministries
First Baptist Church of Bridgeport
126 Washington Avenue, 1st Fl.
Bridgeport, Connecticut, USA  06604

 


(0) +1203.769.1096

(m) +1203.339.5887
jgrant@progressiveprisonproject.org
jg3074@columbia.edu
progressiveprisonproject.org

Wednesday, October 9, 2013

Press Release: Bridgeport Pardons Assistance Project Receives $4000 Grant From ABCUSA


The Prison Ministries of
The First Baptist Church of Bridgeport
126 Washington Avenue
Bridgeport, Connecticut 066o4 

PRESS RELEASE:

 Bridgeport Pardons Assistance Project
bpapct.org 

The Prison Ministries of The First Baptist Church of Bridgeport announces that is the recipient of a $4000 Matthew 25 Grant from ABCUSA (the national body of the American Baptist Churches) to fund the Bridgeport Pardons Assistance Project!

We have opened the first pardons assistance office to cover all of Fairfield County (bpapct.org). 



The grant is specifically dedicated to be disbursed to clients to pay for their pardons related expenses such as transportation, police records, finger print costs, etc.
 

The Mission of the Bridgeport Pardons Assistance Project is to combat poverty, from the first day of an ex-offender’s release from prison, through a Culture of Pardons: public service, volunteerism, goodness, dedication, forgiveness, grace, discipline, faith, and family – these are kinds of things an ex-offender needs to obtain a Pardon. 

The BPAP is important for the Fairfield County reentry community because it marks real on-the-ground change borrowed from enlightened criminal justice theory espoused at the State of Connecticut Department of Corrections and by the State of Connecticut Board of Pardons and Paroles (with which dept. we are working closely).

Of course, not every ex-offender and family that applies for a Pardon will be granted one - but great things can and will happen for all who engage the process.  The point is create and engender a Culture of Pardons - the more ex-offenders who are granted pardons, the more we will combat lives of poverty for all ex-offenders and their families.

The BPAP’s objective is to bring professionalism and respect to a process at a time when our clients’ have already been through the most difficult and dehumanizing periods of their lives. Our volunteers have been trained at the State of Connecticut Board of Pardons & Paroles.  

The BPAP is part of a larger mission at the First Baptist Church of Bridgeport to welcome and offer a home to the reentry and recovery communities. We recognize it might be difficult to imagine in some churches - not in ours!  This plan has fully approved by both Senior Pastor Hopeton Scott and the full Congregation of The First Baptist Church of Bridgeport.


"We feel truly blessed in our mission to assist each and every person in the ex-offender community of Fairfield County to engage in a "Culture of Pardons" and to begin the pardon application process as soon as possible.  It is never too early to start the process of spiritual growth and transformation towards what just might lead to a pardon." 

For More Information:  Rev. Jeff Grant, JD, M Div, 
Assoc. Minister / Director of Prison Ministries 
bpapct.org,
126 Washington Ave, Bridgeport, CT 06604 jgrant3074@bpapct.org, (203) 769-1096



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Rev. Jeff Grant, JD, M Div
Director, Progressive Prison Project/
Innocent Spouse & Children Project
Greenwich, Connecticut, USA

Assoc. Minister/
Director of Prison Ministries
First Baptist Church of Bridgeport
126 Washington Avenue, 1st Fl.
Bridgeport, Connecticut, USA 06604

(o) +1203.769.1096
(m) +1203.339.5887
jgrant@progressiveprisonproject.org
jg3074@columbia.edu
progressiveprisonproject.org 

Friday, September 20, 2013

Luke, Slaves & Masters, Luke 16:1-13: A Sermon. The Innocent Spouse & Children Project, Greenwich, CT



United Congregational Church

Norwalk, Connecticut



Sunday, Sept. 22, 2013



Luke, Slaves & Masters:
The Innocent Spouse & Children Project,
Greenwich, CT



Luke 16:1-13



A Sermon

 By Jeff Grant 



Good morning, and Welcome to the United Congregational Church of Norwalk Connecticut.  My name is Jeff Grant, and I am the Associate Minster and Director of Prison Ministries at the First Baptist Church of Bridgeport, Connecticut.  For those of you who are not familiar with our church, it is in a neighborhood in Bridgeport called “The Hollow” that can be pretty rough at times. You can probably guess that the ‘hood in Bridgeport is sometimes a very difficult - yet very fulfilling - place in which to be a prison minister. 



I spend the rest of my time as Director of two other ministries – the Progressive Prison Project and the Innocent Spouse & Children Project – both based in Greenwich, Connecticut.  In these new forms of prison ministry, we offer support to people accused or convicted of white collar and other nonviolent crimes and their families.  Believe it or not, Greenwich is sometimes an even more difficult - yet fulfilling - place to be a prison minister.



My dear friend Rev. Holly Adams is away this morning - in Russia no less - she has asked me fill in for her to preach this morning’s sermon on our Scripture reading from the Gospel of Luke, apply it to the work we are doing in our prison ministries, and specifically point out ways in which – in our experience – people have been transformed through Christ from being Slaves to money into being joyful servants of the one true Master.  That Master of course is God.

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This morning’s scripture lesson, Luke 16:1-13, is sometimes called the “Parable of The Unjust Steward,” or, in some versions of the Bible, the “Parable of the Shrewd Manager.” It is one of the most confusing passages in all of the New Testament, so it looks like we have our hands full this morning.  It asks, “How is it that an unfaithful Manager, about to be relieved of his position, can gain praise from his employer when he ends his career by stealing more from him?”  



I think that this is a certainly a question that anyone might be very interested in hearing about – and especially someone who might be heading to prison, who has a family member in prison, or who has recently returned home from prison?



To better understand this parable, we need to look at the context in which it was presented.  The Parable of the Unjust Steward is the fourth story given in a series that begins in Luke 15.  The first is the Parable of the Lost Sheep – which is a parable that tells us that every soul is precious to God and is worth great effort to save.  The second story is the Parable of the Lost Coin – in this parable Jesus reminds us that we will put forth a lot of effort to a task that we deem valuable enough. The third is the Parable of the Prodigal Son, a story in which we learn that God wants us back even when we turn against him.



In today’s parable, each of us is a steward, or a Manager, of God's creation and the blessings God gives to us.  But a steward, or a Manager, does not own the things he manages.  God is the Owner; we are the Managers.  In the Parable, the Rich Man says to the Manager:  “Give Me an Account of your management.”  In the same way God gives us our lives to manage.   But how many of us refuse to account?  How many of us refuse to submit to authority?  Even when that authority is God’s authority?  Maybe especially when that authority is God’s authority? 



“Give me an account of your Management,” says the Owner in the parable.  Yet the Manager at first refuses just as we refuse.  We refuse to submit to authority.  And we suffer.  We think we know better.  We think we can go it alone.  



The Parable continues and tells the tale of the unscrupulous Manager – who thinks he gets one over on everybody.  He even thinks he gets one over on God.  The Manager wanted to make his money the easiest way possible.  He wanted to make it on the backs of others - in unscrupulous transactions.  Being forewarned that he is about to lose his job, the unjust steward provided for himself by making use of other’s resources.  



Doesn’t this describe us – aren’t we all too easily persuaded to take shortcuts?  To cut corners?  Even though we knew in our bones that somebody was likely to get hurt?  That we might be cheating our families - or ourselves - from that great life that we had been promised?



But note carefully the way in which the Lord commends the Manager after his deeds had been revealed.  The Parable states: "So the master commended the unjust steward because he had dealt shrewdly."  That’s right, the Manager was Commended – but perhaps not in the way the Manager would have preferred.  



In the Oxford Dictionary, one definition of the word Commended is to “entrust someone or something to,” as in “I Commend him to Your care.” This definition is from Middle English: the prefix “com,” from the Latin word, commendare, (expressing intensive force) + and the balance from the Latin word, mandare (meaning to commit or entrust).  So the word Commended in this context can easily mean the Lord forcefully committed the Manager – which of course is exactly how we sentence prisoners when they have committed such egregious acts.



In today’s Parable, the Manager is indeed sentenced by God – but not cast off as we do in modern-day United States to unyielding prison sentences.  Instead, a loving and compassionate God sentences the Manager to a life of service to God.  The parable states:

if you have not been trustworthy in handling worldly wealth, who will trust you with true riches? 12 And if you have not been trustworthy with someone else’s property, who will give you property of your own?

 

It continues,



“No one can serve two masters. Either you will hate the one and love the other, or you will be devoted to the one and despise the other. You cannot serve both God and money.





Let me tell you some stories about families that are learning that they can no longer be Slaves to money, and thus have been joyfully “sentenced” to lives as servants of God: 

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Let me start by sharing a little bit about my own family.  We’re a family in which we’ve learned a lot about being no longer be Slaves to money and being joyfully “sentenced” to lives as servants of God through service to others.   Service and volunteer work is not only something we joyfully do, it is something we suggest to everybody who goes through life crises – and since almost everybody goes through some life crisis, we recommend service to others to almost everybody.



As some of you may know, the Reverend Hopeton Scott is the Senior Pastor at The First Baptist Church of Bridgeport, and he chose me for the prison ministry position mostly because of the path that I chose after I was released from prison.  I served almost fourteen months in a Federal prison for a white-collar crime.  After my release, I volunteered in hospitals, rehabs and prisoner reentry programs; I attended and earned a Master of Divinity from Union Theological Seminary in NYC - the preeminent urban seminary in the world; and then I became a prison minister in the inner city in Bridgeport, Connecticut – that is my main calling and where I spend most of my time. 



But something else was burning a hole in my soul – it was a thirst - a calling - to help people and families get through what my family went through.  That’s why we founded our new ministries: the Progressive Prison Project and the Innocent Spouse and Children Project, both in Greenwich, Connecticut, that offer experienced and compassionate support to the families of the people accused or convicted of white collar or other nonviolent crimes.  These families receive so little compassion and empathy - and are so easy to "other" - by a world that is all too eager to believe the next sensationalized headline and to ignore the human side of things. 

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Not too long ago I received a call from a friend about a family in crisis.  This family was from an affluent suburb of a major financial center.  The husband/father was now in prison for securities fraud.



Upon his arrest the husband left his family penniless, with no plan, no means to support the mother, children or their home.  Their family and friends cut off all ties with them almost immediately – they were left without any emotional, spiritual or financial support.  They were Eskimos on an ice barge.  



It was a scenario I knew all too well.  I agreed to meet with the mother the next day - I asked my wife to come along for the first part of the meeting and help in case the mother wanted her point of view and a little extra hand holding



The house and grounds were lovely, if fallen slightly into disrepair - I was familiar with the Norma Desmond-esque nature of these things.  I was pragmatic and down to business, my wife was all compassion and kindness (her specialties).  The mother was a deer caught in the headlights - she had no plan, no direction, and nowhere to turn.



The mother’s tale is a sad and all-to-common one these days – an over-ambitious husband who lost his way.  The details are not particularly important, and even if they were, propriety and privilege prevent me from discussing them here.



The mother needed to stop being a victim and to make some difficult decisions.  What other choice did she have - it certainly looked like her husband was not going to be coming home any time soon.  She needed answers, to understand her options.  She needed a plan - a plan that included a spiritual solution for her material problems.  



A spiritual solution basically means to not be afraid, to expect miracles - and then allow them to happen.  This is but one of the miracles I have found along my faith journey – a path of spiritual discovery that only seems to seems be richer and more fulfilling as I share it with others.



It took us a little time to develop trust - I was asking her to make a big leap of faith.  But the more we spoke and shared our lives, it became clear that what we shared was our suffering - we were bonded by our brokenness.  I shared with her my family's suffering and spiritual solution, and suggested that our experience, strength and hope would open a path for her family's own spiritual solution. 



Of course, her spiritual solution would have to deal with some very real issues.  She needed to find out what went wrong, when and why?   To do this she needed a team of professionals – she gave me permission to put together a team of expert lawyers and other professionals to work solely on the behalf of her and her children (incredibly, she never retained independent counsel - or received any advice or counsel - independent from her husband who was now in prison). 

  

In very short order, we had a full team in place where there had been none.  Among the miracles that happened for this mother were that this team of wonderful lawyers and professionals all worked on her matter in nontraditional payment arrangements. 



We delved deep into spiritual matters – and dug into the how and why?  We searched for signs and guideposts, as to how this all could have happened – how this innocent spouse could have been unwittingly dragged into this mess?  We searched, scoured for, and unearthed clues; we considered, intuited and prayed for options and solutions.



You can imagine how frightened this mother and her children have been.  Frightened, isolated, penniless, without hope.  You can imagine how difficult it was when we came into each other’s lives and we prayed together, and then asked each other to not be afraid.  We started by asking each other if we could look at things differently, engage in spiritual solutions, start to expect miracles, and that we could allow these miracles to happen simply through faith, trust and eliminating fear - or at least the strangle-hold that fear had on making good, sound decisions. 



Huge miracles have already happened for this mother and her children – mostly through the work of the wonderful team of professionals that we put together for her.  This team also had to overcome its own fears, learn to expect miracles and allow them to happen.  Doing things differently is just as difficult for lawyers and other professionals as it is for anyone else – maybe even harder. 



Through the outstanding work of this team, there will almost certainly be a safe and secure future for this mother and her children.  God has delivered what mere mortals might have thought was impossible.  I know what this mother and her children originally thought was impossible.



Certainly, there will be a lot of life changes that they will have to get used to - theirs is a family that will almost certainly be split forever by institutions like divorce and prison.  And this mother and her children, through none of their own doing, will likely bear the cross of a tragedy in which a lot of people and institutions lost of a lot of money and respect for the system. 
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As I see it, the biggest tragedy of all about white-collar and nonviolent crime is not how big the matter is, or sensationalized the headlines - it is in our failure to see it as a human story, with real people, real brokenness, and real families left behind. 



That is why we are honored and proud to announce the launch of the Innocent Spouse & Children Project.  It is the first ministry in the United States to support with intentionality the families of people accused or convicted of white collar and other nonviolent crimes. 



We are so grateful to have had the opportunity to help this mother and her children along their faith journey in learning that they could break away from their own enslavement, no longer be Slaves to money and a false Master, and be joyfully “sentenced” to lives as servants of God – just as they have helped us learn in much the same ways and have helped our new ministry to grow and evolve.  



Thanks be to God. 




Portions of this sermon have been previously used in prior sermons on this important subject. Thanks to The Expository Files for assistance on some insights. 

 



Rev. Jeff Grant, JD, M Div
Director, Progressive Prison Project/
Innocent Spouse & Children Project
Greenwich, Connecticut

Assoc. Minister/
Director of Prison Ministries
First Baptist Church of Bridgeport
126 Washington Avenue, 1st Fl.
Bridgeport, Connecticut 06604



(203) 339-5887
jgrant@progressiveprisonproject.org
jg3074@columbia.edu 

Monday, September 9, 2013

Fall 2013 Events

Progressive Prison Project

Innocent Spouse & Children Project

Greenwich, Connecticut 

Fall 2013 Events

Re-Entry Ministry 16th Annual Banquet. Bridgeport, CT, Sat., Sept. 14th.  Our dear friend Queenie Mims has been operating this faith-based home on the East side of Bridgeport for women for almost four decades without any state funding - a miracle! Among other things, they are raising money and awareness for a new location on Fairfield Avenue on the west side of Bridgeport.  Our friend and colleague Erika Tindill, Chair of the State of Connecticut Board of Pardons & Paroles, will be one of the speakers.  We will be there in full support.  

 Bresnan Wedding. Sun., Sept. 15th, LaGrangeville, NY.  I will have the honor of officiating at the wedding of our friends Liz and George.  

United Congregational Church. Sun, Sept. 22nd, West Norwalk, CT.  We are so excited for Rev. Holly Adams in her installation as Senior Pastor of this church - she has asked me to Guest Preach and speak about our ministries.

ABCCONN World Mission Conference. Fri. Sept. 27th & Sat. 28th, New Haven, CT.  Hopeton Scott, Senior Pastor of The First Baptist Church of Bridgeport, will lead Bible Study on Sat. morning.   If you are in or near New Haven on this Sat. morning, it is worth the time to be in a Bible Study with Pastor Scott!

The Nantucket Project. Fri., Sept. 27th - Sun. 29th, Nantucket, MA.  I am scheduled to present on Friday afternoon (right after Steve Case, what a trip!).  Stay tuned for blog entries about this weekend. 

Friends & Family Day. Sun., Sept. 29th, Bridgeport, CT.  One of the biggest & best days of the year at The First Baptist Church of Bridgeport - lunch after for all.  

Family ReEntry Annual Benefit. Sun., Oct. 6th, Greenwich, CT.  Joan Warburg generously donates her estate to host this annual event to raise funding and awareness for this nonprofit that serves the ex-offender communities in Fairfield and New Haven Counties. This is the organization that gave me my second chance - I serve on its Board of Directors. We hope you will join us in supporting this event.


Race & Religion in America.  A series of Wednesday evening suppers and workshops at The First Presbyterian Church, New Canaan, CT.  Rev. Paul Gilmore has invited my colleagues from Union Theological Seminary (Rev. Dr. Samuel Cruz, Rev. Frederick Davie, Charlene Sinclair) and others to be workshop leaders.  I will be leading a workshop on Wed., Oct. 23rd called "The Art of Surviving Prison" (not coincidentally the title of my upcoming book).  I will describe specific and graphic details about daily living conditions, survival skills, spirituality and transformation inside a modern day prison.

Goldberg Wedding.  Sat., Nov. 2nd, Branford, CT.  Last year I officiated as my dear friends Sharon and Bob Goldberg renewed their vows.  I will have the honor of officiating at the wedding of Sharon and Bob's daughter Becky to her finance Chris.  

Greenwich Leadership Forum. Fri., Dec. 13th, Greenwich, CT.  In this unique format, I will be interviewed by host David Miller, Director of the Princeton University Faith & Work Initiative.

Rev. Jeff Grant, JD, M Div
Director, Progressive Prison Project/
Innocent Spouse & Children Project
Greenwich, Connecticut

Assoc. Minister/
Director of Prison Ministries
First Baptist Church of Bridgeport
126 Washington Avenue, 1st Fl.
Bridgeport, Connecticut 06604

(203) 339-5887
jgrant@progressiveprisonproject.org
jg3074@columbia.edu
progressiveprisonproject.org 

Friday, September 6, 2013

Religion & Race in America: Schedule of Speakers & Topics, First Presbyterian Church of New Canaan, CT





Family Night Adult Education Series – Fall 2013
First Presbyterian Church of New Canaan, CT
178 Oenoke Road
New Canaan, Connecticut 06840

Religion & Race in America

Schedule of Speakers & Topics 

 6:30-7:30 Weds. Evenings (Supper starts at 5:30)

September 18   - Overview of Religion & Race in America - The Rev. Dr. Samuel Cruz, Assistant Professor of Church and Society, Union Theological Seminary, NYC

September 25 - “Trayvon Martin: A Tragic Catalyst for Social Change” – publication of the The Thoughtful Christian for the PCUSA, the Rev. Paul E. Gilmore will lead the discussion

October 2 “Walking in Faith When the Way is Uncertain” - The Rev. Frederick Davie, Executive Vice President, Union Theological Seminary, NYC

October 9 – Remembering the 50 Year Anniversary of the March on Washington & the Words of the Rev. Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr. – Panel Discussion with those from our congregation who were there – Tom Nissley, Hudson & Patricia Stoddard

October 16Cellblocks and Border Stops: Transformative Activism in an Age of Dehumanization”Charlene Sinclair, Director of the Center on Race, Religion, and Economic Democracy, Union Theological Seminary, NYC

October 23“The Art of Surviving Prison” – The Rev. Jeff Grant, Director of the Progressive Prison Project/Innocent Spouse & Children Project in Greenwich, Connecticut, and Associate Minister/Director of Prison Ministries of The First Baptist Church of Bridgeport, Connecticut

October 30“The New Jim Crow: One Church’s Response to Mass Incarceration” - The Rev. Diane Lacey, Pastor, The Church of Gethsemane (PCUSA), Brooklyn, NY, which is a unique intentional congregation of persons from all racial, ethnic, economic and educational backgrounds, “founded in 1986 as a New Church Development and established as a church in 1989. The Church of Gethsemane is a congregation of The Presbyterian Church (USA) created by and for incarcerated persons, formerly incarcerated persons, their families, neighborhood persons, and people who feel called into ministry with the poor.”

November 6Facing Racism: A Vision of the Beloved Community & Building Community Among Strangers - Discussion of Presbyterian Church USA General Assembly statements 

November 13 - Where Do We go From Here?
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Rev. Jeff Grant, JD, M Div
Director, Progressive Prison Project/
Innocent Spouse & Children Project
Greenwich, Connecticut

Assoc. Minister/
Director of Prison Ministries
First Baptist Church of Bridgeport
126 Washington Avenue, 1st Fl.
Bridgeport, Connecticut 06604

(203) 339-5887
jgrant@progressiveprisonproject.org
jg3074@columbia.edu  

progressiveprisonproject.org 

The Night Before Prison: A Letter, by Lee Gutierrez

Progressive Prison Project
Innocent Spouse & Children Project
Greenwich, Connecticut 

The Night Before Prison: A Letter
by Lee Gutierrez


Lee Gutierrez was referred to us only one week before this letter was written and posted - he reports tomorrow to serve his eight-year prison sentence.  His is a story of how, on the path of one's spiritual transformation, it is never too late to seek help.  He wanted us to publish his letter in order to help others. 
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September 5, 2013

Mr. Jeff Grant
Director, Progressive Prison Project                       
15 East Putnam Ave
Greenwich, CT, 06830           

Dear Jeff,

I would like to thank you from the deepest part of my soul for helping me with the next steps of my life’s journey. As you know I will be going to prison for a significant amount of time and have been struggling with my thoughts of how to “survive”. I am someone who made a single mistake in my life; I have not had a criminal record since I reached my mid age of 49.

I am an alcoholic and have been struggling with my addiction for over 2 decades. This sickness had consumed me to the point where I was in denial; this denial caused me to have a horrific accident. The result is that I will be incarcerated for a significant part of my 50’s.

This past year has been a struggle for my mind and spirit; I was terrified of the unknown. What would it be like to be in a long term incarceration? I had been talking to people through Recovery that were kind enough to provide a small view of the “life inside” but never enough for me to understand what I would expect. Then through my outpatient counselor I was introduced to Rev. Jeff Grant and the Prison Progressive Project.

Although he is an minister he did not approach me as a religious figure. Having been someone who struggled in prison he understood the challenges and “society inside”. He has come out of it a better person physically, mentally and spiritually. He now dedicates his life to help people like me who have made mistakes and need help and support.

We spent an intense amount of time in such a short period to make sure my fears of the unknown were diminished and all my questions answered. I feel more at peace knowing what steps are going to happen, how to keep in control of what I can and how to assimilate into the “inmate culture”.

I urge you if you are like me; someone who is going into the penal system for the first time and would like to be as prepared as possible. Let Jeff and the Progressive Prison Project organization help you...it is going to save my life.

Respectfully,

German L. Gutierrez 

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Rev. Jeff Grant, JD, M Div
Director, Progressive Prison Project/
Innocent Spouse & Children Project
Greenwich, Connecticut

Assoc. Minister/
Director of Prison Ministries
First Baptist Church of Bridgeport
126 Washington Avenue, 1st Fl.
Bridgeport, Connecticut 06604

(203) 339-5887
jgrant@progressiveprisonproject.org
jg3074@columbia.edu  

progressiveprisonproject.org 

Friday, July 26, 2013

Visiting My Brother In Prison, By Alison Grant

Progressive Prison Project

Greenwich, Connecticut 
 

 Visiting My Brother In Prison, By Alison Grant

  
When my brother told me he might be going to prison, I couldn't believe it.  In my eyes he could do no wrong.   I had been holding him up on a pedestal since I was a little girl. Even when he did things I didn't agree with, he was my rock. 

This time, however, he did something really wrong.  And even with that knowledge he was still the person in my broken family that I could turn to for really solid advice.

When I drove up to the prison, I remember a high fence with barbed wire at the top.  It had looked like every other prison I'd ever seen.  Only this one wasn't the movie set of the Shawshank Redemption.  It was a real prison that my brother was now going to live 15 months of his life in.  Not only would his once free life be full of rules and regulations, but so would everyone who visited him. 

I wasn't allowed to bring any paper money into the prison because maybe I had gotten it from someone who uses drugs and left a residue on it.  Or perhaps it would be a way of bringing drugs inside.   If I remember correctly I was permitted to bring $5.00 in change in a clear bag. Who knew that ziplock had so many uses? This money was to be used to buy food from the vending machine should we get hungry during our visit. 

After sitting for a while staring at the door my brother was to come through, I felt a great deal of discomfort.  I didn't want to be there anymore than he did.  The door finally opened and out he came: still my rock of a brother only this time he wasn't dressed in a custom tailored Hugo Boss suit. He was wearing a tan prison uniform. Being a very strapping, handsome guy, I have to say he looked pretty damned good in it.  

He acted very differently than the brother I knew though. Instead of the big wide smiled teddy bear hug I would normally get from him, he was very methodical.  His movements seemed very slow and subtle as if to make himself invisible.  As he later explained, he did not want to draw any attention to himself.  And that he acted the same way on the other side of the door.  He just wanted to do his time without any trouble. 

We talked for awhile. About what I really don't remember? He ate a microwave hamburger from the vending machine that he asked me to go and get.  Our visit was pretty much over before I knew it.  He told me that every time he goes back through that door they do a cavity check to make sure he isn't bringing anything back inside with him. To this day that has stuck with me. 

I couldn't tell you how it was to live on the other side of the door.  Only he can, but this I can tell you.  My brother has had a monumental spiritual awakening in his life since that time. He has turned into a giver rather than a taker.  

He is still my rock.  And even though he is not perfect, he will always be the person I turn to for solid advice.  

My sister Alison is an award-winning advertising copywriter - she says that this was the most difficult thing she's ever written.  

Rev. Jeff Grant, JD, M Div
Director, Progressive Prison Project/
Innocent Spouse & Children Project
Greenwich, Connecticut

Assoc. Minister/
Director of Prison Ministries
First Baptist Church of Bridgeport
126 Washington Avenue, 1st Fl.
Bridgeport, Connecticut 06604

(203) 339-5887
jgrant@progressiveprisonproject.org
jg3074@columbia.edu